How often do we take our spouse for granted? Quite an everyday affair isn't it? There could be something wrong in that notion, don't you think. But how far do we go to change this? Do we sit back and relish the assumptions or do we make an effort to try and understand the real emotions that underlay in the relationship? One fine day,everything changed in my life.
A little intro on how it all began:
Thanks to my association with a mother's group on Face Book, my whole notion of relationships has changed, be it either with children, with the spouse or with anyone in particular. We talk about everything under the sun, we share our sorrows as much as we share our joy on the group. It was on this group, we spoke about a book "The Happiness Project". The ultimate aim of every human is to find that eternal bliss of happiness isn't it? So I began to survey the book only to find a chapter specifically dealing with Marriage,Spouse and everything related to it. Not that one needs to read books to understand marriage but a reminder once a while is a good thing, right?
The changes I brought about:
First on first, I decided to startanewlife.And how you may ask? I decided to have a heart to heart conversation with the spouse about what was bothering him, about what was bothering me, and anything and everything related to our life's. This did the job for me. I have been married for 7 years. We started out as friends, then a couple and now parents and this one task of open talk has never happened. Or has it and the nuisances of life has made me forget things?
Whatever be it, I decided to start afresh at the way I look at things in our life's. I don't take him for granted anymore, I don't nag him anymore for small things. I would not claim it to be a 100% success route but I am getting there. The relation is getting it due importance. It feels good to know that anything and everything can be discussed
And why do I say this, because there's hell lot of changes I see in my spouse, once I changed my assumptions. He is more forthcoming helping with things at home. He takes over the responsibility's of child rearing with ease.
Not to forget, I am a lot calmer when handling kids at home, a bit more mature when handling delicate situations. The entire point of talking it out and staying together helps the relation stay strong. Yes there's always a give and take in any kind of relation and the bond between husband and wife is no different. Today we are looking forward to stay together and sail towards a happier life ahead combating all challenges with equal determination.
A little intro on how it all began:
Thanks to my association with a mother's group on Face Book, my whole notion of relationships has changed, be it either with children, with the spouse or with anyone in particular. We talk about everything under the sun, we share our sorrows as much as we share our joy on the group. It was on this group, we spoke about a book "The Happiness Project". The ultimate aim of every human is to find that eternal bliss of happiness isn't it? So I began to survey the book only to find a chapter specifically dealing with Marriage,Spouse and everything related to it. Not that one needs to read books to understand marriage but a reminder once a while is a good thing, right?
The changes I brought about:
First on first, I decided to startanewlife.And how you may ask? I decided to have a heart to heart conversation with the spouse about what was bothering him, about what was bothering me, and anything and everything related to our life's. This did the job for me. I have been married for 7 years. We started out as friends, then a couple and now parents and this one task of open talk has never happened. Or has it and the nuisances of life has made me forget things?
Whatever be it, I decided to start afresh at the way I look at things in our life's. I don't take him for granted anymore, I don't nag him anymore for small things. I would not claim it to be a 100% success route but I am getting there. The relation is getting it due importance. It feels good to know that anything and everything can be discussed
And why do I say this, because there's hell lot of changes I see in my spouse, once I changed my assumptions. He is more forthcoming helping with things at home. He takes over the responsibility's of child rearing with ease.
Not to forget, I am a lot calmer when handling kids at home, a bit more mature when handling delicate situations. The entire point of talking it out and staying together helps the relation stay strong. Yes there's always a give and take in any kind of relation and the bond between husband and wife is no different. Today we are looking forward to stay together and sail towards a happier life ahead combating all challenges with equal determination.
